Watch out for flying objects
Throughout my life, in good times and challenging ones, I’ve always been comforted by signs.
Whether it’s hearing my favorite song come on when I’m feeling a little sad, or getting a call from an old friend at a particularly difficult point in my life, I’ve always seen these events as the way God or the universe communicates with me and lets me know I’m not alone.
About seven years ago, I was going through one of my lowest, or at least most stressful times in my life.
Our daughter Lizzy was going through a particularly difficult period.
Her special needs have never been clearly diagnosed despite taking her to every doctor and specialist imaginable. Several MRIs showed significant brain damage, but no one could tell us what the findings meant.
Sometimes it looked as if she might be okay and would be able to function in a typical classroom with just a little extra help. Other times it seemed as if she was getting worse and we would get tests results that suggested we were dealing with something far more serious, perhaps even life threatening.
Lizzy was in kindergarten, and her behaviors were stumping her doctors, the school district and her teachers. She was having a horrible time in her classroom, and I didn’t know where to turn, or what to do with her.
After some of her behaviors suggested she was having seizures, she was scheduled to have a 48-hour EEG in the hospital.
To make this time even more stressful, my father had a brain aneurism, and he was scheduled to have his surgery about a week after LIzzy’s stay in the hospital.
My father had become extremely important to me, not just as my dad. He was also my main support in helping me handle life with my kids.
We were not just dealing with Lizzy’s significant issues. I had therapists coming in and out of my house for two-year-old Peter, who was getting early intervention services for speech and developmental delays. Our oldest child, Tom, was getting vision and occupational therapy for his dyslexia and dysgraphia. It was very chaotic.
My husband has a long commute and is gone from 6 in the morning until 9 or 10 at night, and my mom’s work as a real estate broker keeps her very busy. My dad had become my most trusted support system.
I could always depend on him to watch one of the kids, lend me an extra hand or make me laugh.
His condition was very serious, and I was terrified that I could lose him.
I pride myself on being pretty strong, but how much more could I take?
It was the day before Lizzy’s test, and I was running around getting everything ready so that I could leave Joe and the boys home for the weekend while I stayed with Lizzy for the two nights she would be in the hospital.
In the midst of my rushing around, I stopped for a second to catch my breath and relax for a minute. I was looking out our front window when I started to sob.
Crying does not come easily for me. I can count on my hands the times I’ve had an ugly cry.
But here I was, in my living room crying like a baby.
Through my tears I started to pray, well actually beg, for answers and strength. I desperately needed a sign that I could handle all that was on my plate.
I continued to sob when all of sudden I heard a loud thump, almost a crash, that stunned me out of my tears.
The noise seemed to come from the bay window, but I could see nothing.
I went outside to find a bird lying dead on my front patio.
Yes, as I was sobbing and begging for a sign from God, a bird crashed into my window.
One minute I was sobbing, and an instant later I was laughing.
I called my dad and explained what had just happened.
Now we were both laughing.
“Kathy, that little bird gave up his life for you. You must give him a proper burial.”
Which I did, laughing the whole time. I even managed to get him buried before the kids came home from school and Peter woke up from his nap.
As it turned out, my dad’s surgery was a success. And though the EEG did not give us any more answers into what was wrong with Lizzy, I was able to get her into a program that worked much better for her.
And for the record, no bird has flown into that window again.
— Kathy Radigan
Kathy Radigan is a writer, blogger, social media addict, mom to three, wife to one and owner of a possessed appliance. She posts a weekly essay each Sunday on her blog, My dishwasher’s possessed! and has had her writing featured in What to Expect, BlogHer, Mamapedia, and other publications. She is a contributing author to Sunshine After the Storm: a survival guide for the grieving mother and The HerStories Project: Women Explore the Joy, Pain and Power of Female Friendship. You can follow her on Facebook, Twitter and Google.