This morning I had the pleasure of working out next to my former self. She was young, fit, skin as smooth as porcelain, perky, young.
Oh, did I mention FIT!! You know which girl I’m talking about.
I found myself being a tiny bit catty and snarky in my head while she was doing her perfect leg lifts. That’s not so hard, I said to myself. I can do that.
OK, maybe not right now because my hip hurts from the too-much-sitting-on-my-a** syndrome, and I am a bit gassy from the taco soup I made last night. After having kids, I find that in addition to urine leaking out ALL the time, I also have lost control over my flatulence. I figured doing leg lifts while squeezing my a** was NOT a good idea.
As quickly as the snarky comments in my head appeared, they disappeared. I smiled. I remembered how far I have come. Not just physically, but mentally.
So I sucked up my pride, peeled my 41-year-old body off the floor and looked her way. As she was probably completing her 50th Jane Fonda-like leg lift, I looked at her and said “great form.” She smiled, said thank you, and returned the compliment. “You’re really fit for your age.” I laughed so hard I snorted and possibly farted. She had no idea why I was laughing.
I might be older, not as fit, not so perky or smooth, definitely not fast or limber anymore, but I’m good with that.
Later that night I found myself thinking about my unlikely workout partner from earlier in the day. Thinking about what that 19-year-old girl said about “being fit for someone my age.” Thinking about the way I laughed and actually took that as a great reflection on my life right now. Her comment got me thinking about just how far I have come and how I like the direction I am going.
One of the best parts about being “someone my age” — I find that I just don’t care anymore. Consider:
1. I love eating buttercream frosting from the bowl.
2. I love that my husband pointed out to me that the blender was still plugged in and I had my finger on the trigger. Hey, I never claimed to be the smartest bulb in the bunch.
3. I love that the guy at the Taco Time drive thru knows us.
4. I love that I don’t care anymore about how much screen time my kids get.
5. I love that it’s more important to me that my kids stomp on ant hills than do homework.
6. I love that I don’t buy everything organic anymore.
7. I love that after we got home from parent-teacher conferences, I threw away all of my daughter’s standardized test scores.
8. I love that my kids are getting to know the fun side of me.
9. I love that I didn’t wait too long to say “I don’t care anymore.”
10. I love that I am finally confident enough in myself and my family to not feel the need to compare our lives to someone else’s.
11. I love that there are perks to “being someone my age.”
So, this is life. I think I like it!
— Sara Lindberg
Sara Lindberg is a full-time school counselor with two kids, ages 5 and 7. Her background includes a B.S. in exercise science and a M.Ed. in counseling. She has never considered herself a writer, just a woman with a lot of random thoughts in her head and access to a computer.
(Editor’s Note: This piece originally appeared on HumorTimes.com on Jan. 5, 2016. Reposted by permission of author Paul Lander.)
The news doesn’t need to be complicated and confusing; that’s what any new release from Microsoft is for. And, as in the case with anything from Microsoft, to keep the news from worrying our pretty little heads over, remember something new and equally indecipherable will come out soon.
Really all you need to do is follow one simple rule: barely pay attention and jump to conclusions. So, here are some headlines today and my first thoughts:
US and Allies conduct 24 airstrikes against Islamic State targets in Iraq
Someone just tell Liam Neeson ISIS took his daughter. That should finish them off.
Jennifer Garner and Ben Affleck are fed up with living together
Not as much as the rest of us are about hearing about it.
CNN reporter Poppy Harlow passed out while on the air
Thank God, one of CNN’s three viewers called paramedics.
Ivanka Trump defends Donald Trump
Proving where there’s a will there’s a way.
You’ll never guess what marijuana is being blamed for now
I know, I know… wait, I forgot…
Steve Harvey signs for 3 more years as host of ‘Miss Universe’ pageant
Look for him to also host next year’s spelling bee live from the ‘Philpeans.’
Robert Spitzer, most influential psychiatrist, dies at 83
In lieu of flowers, people are just being asked, ‘so, how does this make you feel?’
This is what Beyoncé wears to chill with Hillary Clinton
According to Kanye West, it should be, ‘What Hillary Clinton wears to chill with Beyonce.’
RIP Harlem Globetrotter legend, Meadowlark Lemon
Some advice, you might want to save the old water/confetti in the bucket trick for once you’re officially in heaven.
David Spade complains Michelle Obama’s been on ‘Ellen’ more than him
Maybe, because she’s funnier.
People report feeling 4.2 earthquake in L.A.
Well, it was either an earthquake or a bunch of folks exhibiting the effects of eating at Chipotle all at the same time.
Bill Cosby indicted
Bill Cosby should sue Viagra because his erection lasted four decades.
Republican Carson’s campaign manager, 20 staffers quit
Ironically, not working for a brain surgeon means they no longer need to have their heads examined.
Ninja Lanternshark: Scientists discover new species of shark off Central America coast
Never mind, it was just conference of lawyers on break.
— Paul Lander
Paul Lander is not sure which he is proudest of — winning the Nobel Peace Prize or sending Sudanese peace activist, Fatima Ahmed Ibrahim, to accept it on his behalf, bringing to light the plight of central Africa’s indigenous people. In his non-daydreaming hours, Paul has worked as a writer and/or producer for shows on ABC, NBC, Showtime, The Disney Channel, ABC Family, VH1, LOGO and Lifetime. In addition, he’s written stand-up material that’s been performed on “Leno,” “Letterman,” “Conan” and “Last Comic Standing.” His humor pieces have appeared in Huff Post Comedy, McSweeney’s, The New Yorker, Santa Fe Writers Project Journal, Humor Times, The Higgs Weldon and Hobo Pancake. In 2015, he placed second in the National Society of Newspaper Columnists’ annual column contest in the online/blog/multimedia category for his pieces in Humor Times and was named the Erma Bombeck Writers’ Workshop’s “Humor Writer of the Month” in April.
I’m not big on signs and such but…
Oh, wait. I’m a big ol’ liar if I leave that in print.
Okay, okay. … I am big on signs. Of all sorts. I admit it.
Think I’m silly, if you must. You won’t think I’m all that silly, though, once you get a load of this.
The new year, 2016, is going to be my year. The signs say so. Two signs in a row, in fact, that things will soon be looking up for me, signs that 2016 will indeed be my year.
(Which would be awesome and appreciated and oh-so very welcome considering the <cussing> <cus> of a <cussing> year 99 percent of <cussing> 2015 was for me and my loved ones.)
The first sign came when my forever friend Debbie and I went to lunch last week. We’ve had lunch together at Chinese restaurants now and then for, sheesh, 20 years or so. (Can you remember, Debbie?) Last week we did so for the first time this year. And what to my wondering eyes should appear but a fortune from my fortune cookie that read:
I thought that was a nice fortune. A good fortune I could certainly hope for. But I honestly didn’t think of it as a sign.
Until, that is, I got another sign. Yesterday. A big sign. From an official source.
That source being Anderson Cooper.
Now, I don’t participate in many of the memes on Facebook. But one featuring Anderson Cooper drew me in yesterday. I saw it on a friend’s Facebook page and just had to do it.
So I clicked on the link, connected to my Facebook profile as directed… and was delighted by the result:
An absolutely fitting fortune for me. (Though it would have been more fitting if Anderson had said I won Publisher’s Clearing House, considering all the times I’ve entered over the years.) Still, Anderson Cooper announcing my riches to come is a sure enough sign for me, one I won’t ignore.
Especially considering the first sign — that I now realize was a sign.
In light of the signs — and despite it being early — I now officially bid you farewell, 2015! I forgive you for all the funk you foisted upon me and mine during the past 12 months. You’re behind me as I now look straight ahead to 2016 and the signs it has already sent my way!
Signs pointing to 2016 — finally! — being my year.
For good things.
Of all sorts of sorts.
Perhaps you should be on the lookout for signs 2016 will be your year, too!
If nothing else, go ahead and try that CNN Facebook meme just for the heck of it. Or order up some Chinese food including a fortune cookie. Neither one can hurt. And one or the other just might make your day.
If not your year. Cheers to 2016 being our year!
— Lisa Carpenter
Lisa Carpenter is a freelance writer and blogger specializing in topics related to grandparenting, the empty nest and the baby boomer lifestyle. She publishes the Grandma’s Briefs website, stressing the vitality and relevance of today’s grandmothers, and she writes regularly for the Huffington Post and PurpleClover.com. Follow her on Twitter, Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest.
When reacting to anger, women have three basic modus operandi. Men have one.
I know, it’s shocking, but we women have always been overachievers. Women react with either avoidance, depression or the sit ‘n suffer. Men are only capable of the sit ‘n suffer.
Avoidance: If you’re anything at all like me, and admit it, you are, then you despise confrontation. When I became middle aged, I also became vain, and found myself buying boxes of hair dye at the drug store. I used this silly product made by companies who have the nerve to know that I am vain and prey on that fact to squeeze a few bucks out of my wallet and into theirs. Nonetheless, I freely admit that I spent several years doing the deed myself at the expense of several household towels and the bathroom grout, neither of which will ever again be pristinely white.
After years of doing this, my family caviled at the purple hue of my hair to the point that I finally had to seek professional assistance. After some time in the beautician’s chair my hair went from purple to black. My actual color, or I should say my birth color, was brown. Black and freckles simply made no sense. So back I went to the beautician for another correction. This time, I came home almost blonde with the dried bleached-out texture of a sweater that sits in the back of your closet because it’s too itchy on your skin for comfort and it’s a putrid shade of mustard anyway.
I was beside myself. I should’ve stuck with the purple. I didn’t want to go out and be seen in public, but even worse, I didn’t want to go back to the shop to confront the hairdresser yet again. I was sure that it couldn’t be fixed and that if it could be fixed, it was going to cost me more money for the vanity I already felt guilty about. So instead, I spent a day fretting and staying home avoiding the issue and all mirrors all together. Eventually, I had to force myself and my anger to calm down and confront the issue full throttle. I was angry about the whole thing. I didn’t want to have to confront the hairdresser, but in the long run, my hair is now brown, no really, it’s brown, my freckles match, and the beautician couldn’t have been more sympathetic.
That’s anger: avoidance, confrontation and resolution.
Depression: Then there’s that stuff-it-down-your-throat anger. This is the one when your boss really pisses you off. So you write him a nasty e-mail to get even. But then you’re smart enough not to push the send button. You wait: a very wise thing to do. You calm down. Or at least you think you calm down. Then you spend days resenting your boss and never speaking up for yourself. Your boss sucks. This job sucks. Actually, your whole life sucks. And now, let me be the first to present to you: depression. It’s really anger that has fallen and can’t get up. I’m really, really good at this one. I have multiple empty bottles of Prozac and Lexapro to prove it.
So I suck it down. Remember Ross Perot? There is a giant sucking sound you can hear coming out of my intestines. Swoop! There it goes deep into the bowels of, well, my bowels, Anger went in. It swam around my bowels for a bit, and then flowed with the current. It made its way into my heart but couldn’t get quite cozy. Anger has a lot of energy. So it wasn’t too tired to keep swimming.
Upward it went, eventually landing in my brain where it promptly and finally lost its buoyancy. Its arms couldn’t take one more stroke onward. Its flippers fell off. And finally, finally, its mask came off, too. Without its mask, it can’t see very clearly, so it flops around for a while until it finally removes the snorkel out of its mouth. So now it can’t see and it can’t breathe. It finally has to come up for air. It was anger that went in. What came out was something entirely different: anger’s cousin, depression. If you’re a very lucky girl and you’re very patient, it may eventually lift itself up and remove itself from your body a little at a time until it’s finally gone. You might even be able to forget about it.
That’s anger: stuff it down, depression, possible memory loss and, finally, peace.
Sit ‘n Suffer: This is the third manner in which women handle anger. It is the only one for men. This is anger that needs support. And I’m not just talking about bras here, ladies.
We all have those people in our lives who just know how to push our buttons. They know the precise combination of parry one and parry two, and when to thrust, penetrate and then turn the sword at a 180-degree spin with a direct hit into your gut. We react by going to the office.
The office is the place where we pull our support together. Our support contains all the people in our lives whom we can count on for utter and complete agreement at our meeting. We don’t want opinion. We want back up.
Unless my husband is the target, which is extremely rare, he’s always the first one elected to my committee and invited to my executive board meeting. What we need at this meeting is some “sit and suffer.” In my family, “sit and suffer” is what you do when party A, the innocent bystander, has to literally sit, and then suffer with party B, the injured party. “Sit and suffer” is a time-honored tradition. If you are a member of my family, and you are not a member of party C, the party who did the injuring, then you sure as heck better perform “sit and suffer” with me if you wish to remain a family member in good standing.
In the end, the meeting is called to order. Everyone supports party B. That’s the injured party in case you already forgot. Keep up, people! Party B finally feels better. The anger has dissipated, and now, we can second the motion to begin to discuss the appropriate and mature response to party C. A decision is reached. The meeting is adjourned. The action is taken. The incident is over.
That’s anger: sit ‘n suffer and peace.
Sit ‘n suffer has an added bonus. It’s not just for dealing with anger. It’s used for dealing with anything unpleasant. If my hubby has a stack of bills he needs to pay, I should be in the room to “help” him. We can’t both write the checks. We can’t both lick the envelopes. Nope. My job is to sit ‘n suffer with him while he has to pay the bills.
Women learned sit ‘n suffer from men. Men never learned avoidance or depression from women. You don’t see men burying their heads in the sand to avoid an issue. You don’t see men crying about issues until they eat them alive. You see men calling in the troops before they go to battle. As much as we women are overachievers, I think men have something here with sit ‘n suffer. There’s something to be said for creating a team of people on your side and confronting issues head on.
I just don’t get why it always has to involve troops and war or sports and teams. How about if we just call the meeting to order and do lunch?
— Leslie Handler
Leslie Handler is a 2015 National Society of Newspaper Columnists award winner. She is a frequent contributor to WHYY’s Newsworks, has written for The Philadelphia Inquirer, ZestNow and Boomercafe, as well as blogs for The Huffington Post. She has a bachelor of journalism degree and currently lives smack dab between Philadelphia and New York City with husband Marty, dogs Maggie and Hazel, a collection of fish, said husband’s cockatoo who she’s been trying to roast for dinner for the last 31 years, and a few occasional uninvited guests. You may follow her blog and read published essays at Leslie goes BOOM!
It’s no secret that long-term marriages have their ups and downs. We expect to be mushy-gushy one day and want to kill each other the next.
But no one told me that, after 34 years of pretty much wedded bliss, we would reach midlife and go through a stage in which our marriage would run so hot and cold.
As I write this, sitting on top of our bed in a t-shirt and light cotton capri pajama bottoms with the fan blowing overhead and the terrace door wide open, my husband is hunkered down at the desk in his office, wrapped in a king-sized Anthropologie blanket, with all the doors and windows shut tight.
I’m going to guess it’s around 80 degrees. He would probably guess it’s around 40.
Forget about Venus and Mars. It seems men are from Florida and women from Antarctica.
How can our bodies be wired so differently?
I’m not sure when we started drifting toward opposite climate zones but I do remember having the whole family over for the holidays a few years ago and my mother, my sister and I ripping off layers of clothing and fanning ourselves with dish towels. I’d like to believe it was because we had been slaving over a hot stove, preparing a delicious, home-cooked meal, but that’s just plain fantasy.
On that same occasion, I also remember someone yelling at me not to turn down the thermostat. With hormones raging, I whipped around to find my husband, my father and my brother-in-law huddled together on the couch in front of the fireplace, practically shivering, in their sweaters and wool socks.
That was the moment I realized nature is a great practical joker.
I mean, look at the progression of our lives. When we’re young (Michael and I met when I was 18 and he was 20), it’s usually the girls who are cold — though I’m convinced that has less to do with body temperature and more to do with dressing for fashion instead of for the weather. So the guys offer us their jackets — because they are dressed for the weather and are wearing an appropriate layer underneath. They feel manly and protective, we feel loved and cute in their oversized outerwear, and everyone’s happy.
But then the years go by, and suddenly we’re the ones reminding our husbands to carry a sweater to the movies. Or the grocery store. Or the beach.
While we’re having night sweats and hot flashes.
When we were in college, I threw one of Michael’s sweaters down the incinerator when he was sleeping because it was purple, turtleneck and horrendous. Okay, I’m not proud of that action and, subconsciously, that guilt may be one of the reasons I agreed to move from New York to San Diego, where I wrongly assumed he would never again need that sweater.
You see, although we now live in probably the most temperate climate in the world, I’m always hot and he’s always cold.
This past summer, which even he would agree was one of the hottest and most uncomfortable on record, we spent many evenings negotiating the air conditioning. I admit it costs a fortune when we use it but, come on — we’re reaching an age when heat can be very dangerous to your health, right?
When our beloved Newfoundland was alive, we kept the air conditioning on all the time for her. For me? Not so much.
Most nights, you can find me lying — awake — on top of the comforter in my underwear, with my hair pulled back in a ponytail and the fan whirring at its highest speed, while my husband sleeps contently, snuggled under a couple of blankets.
So when I got invited on a press trip to the Yucatan Peninsula in September, I grabbed one of my friends who’s experiencing the same issues, and, with the promise of free air conditioning luring us in, we happily arrived at the luxurious Hacienda Puerta Campeche, where we headed right to our room and cranked that baby up. In fact, we even asked for extra blankets — which earned us a strange look from the lovely woman sweating at the front desk.
If we had been traveling with our husbands, there’s a good chance they would have preferred to spend the night in the hammocks outside.
I slept so well with that frigid air circulating, I’m thinking it may be time to get a big, hairy dog again just so I can share its apparently unrestricted access to the air conditioning. And if it gets too cold for Michael, he can simply cuddle into her natural fur coat.
Somehow — maybe because he’s actually ensconced in a warm and wondrous dreamland while I toss and turn and send out a silent prayer to be transformed into Elsa in “Frozen” (yes, I want to build a snowman, damn it) — Michael doesn’t seem to be bothered by any of this.
In fact, when I mentioned I was going to write about the fact that women get hotter with age and men get colder, he said, “You mean emotionally?”
So now I’m thinking we should just take separate vacations. I’m going to Venus but he’ll be heading to Mars.
And, because I love him dearly, I’ll remind him to pack a sweater.
— Lois Alter Mark
Lois Alter Mark, a travel expert at USA Today, also blogs at Midlife at the Oasis and The Huffington Post. In 2013, she was named the top blogger in Blogger Idol, the premier blogging contest for bloggers. She also won BlogHer Voices of the Year Awards in 2012, 2013 and 2014. After being selected as an Ultimate Viewer by Oprah, she accompanied her to Australia on the trip of a lifetime.
The next time you’re planning a banquet and decide on a “family-style” meal, do me a favor and leave me off the invite list.
I recently attended such a function. It was a lovely event, a celebration of our kid’s championship soccer season. Our whole family was there. Lots of whole families were there. Hence, I suppose, the family-style service. One big, happy, hungry family.
The meal started off in usual fashion. They brought us salads and a basket of rolls. We each had our own salad served to us individually. The rolls made their way around the table. I’m not sure if convention dictates a clockwise or counterclockwise rotation, but we improvised and all was well.
When the waitress returned to retrieve our plates, my wife’s, almost full, was whisked away without comment, while mine, empty, prompted an “Are you done with that, sir?” inquiry. I said no, I’d like to stare at it awhile in fond remembrance of what had been there.
Around the same time, other servers began presenting the main course. They brought out a series of platters featuring mounded portions of roast beef, pasta, carrots, mashed potatoes and some purple and red concoction that bore a vague resemblance to beets.
Another platter contained an aromatic whitefish identified by the waitress as “scrod.” Those living outside New England, thinking they’ve somehow been missing out on an epicurean delight, might suddenly feel compelled to rush to their local seafood market and request a pound or two of scrod. In turn, they’ll likely receive a rather quizzical look. I’ve been deep-sea fishing on a couple of occasions and have yet to hear an old salty type claim he’s trolling for scrod. Scrod, of course, is a made-up word, a portmanteau referencing an indefinable whitefish that could be haddock, cod, hake, pollock, shark, guppy, piranha, Mekong catfish or something else that swims and turns white when cooked. Perhaps the “s” stands for “seems to be.” In any case, I passed on the scrod, much like I would if the server brought me a mysterious beef-like slab and called it “smeat.”
As the waiters and waitresses carried out the platters, a second group of wait staff was busy erecting scaffolding as the table’s centerpiece. The platters, you see, were roughly the size of small toboggans and wouldn’t comfortably fit around the table. Instead, they were arranged vertically along this scaffolding, with the farthest dishes landing some 42 feet beyond one’s reach. It did not rotate, so if you wanted, say, the beets, you had to politely ask someone on the opposite side of the table to climb the scaffolding, retrieve the beets and send them around the table in your direction.
When the meal first arrived, we passed the platters to each other as swiftly and delicately as possible under the circumstances, considering that each weighed approximately 16 pounds. Some went clockwise, while others traveled the opposite way. The inevitable logjam landed with me, with the carrots to my left and the scrod to my right, both held by people eager to grab hold of the roast beef I was forking onto my plate.
Under such intense pressure, I would normally become anxious and flummoxed, but I was determined to get my fair share of the roast beef. The problem was that I wasn’t sure exactly how much that should be. I tried to quickly calculate the amount of roast beef divided by the number of people around the table, figuring that I held in my hands the sum total of roast beef we’d be receiving. Seconds wouldn’t be forthcoming. This was our table’s allotment of roast beef, period, and my task was to take only what was rightfully mine and not a morsel more.
Upon finishing, I then had to determine which way to pass the roast beef, given that I was the first one to encounter it. Whichever way it went, the person on my opposite side would face the harsh reality of being the last person to have it and would be subject to everyone else’s faulty math and questionable portion decisions. Would there even be any left? I saw the desperation and longing etched on each candidate’s face and contemplated my decision carefully.
I chose counterclockwise, passing the roast beef to my right and adding further insult to the chap on my left by exchanging his carrots for the platter of scrod. He seemed crestfallen and determined to exact his revenge, a plot he would carry out moments later.
Meanwhile, now that all the platters had been passed around and returned to their various stations along the scaffolding, we were ready to eat. Unfortunately, the time it took us to navigate this elaborate process allowed our food to grow cold. I wondered how we could have expedited matters and gotten to our meals in a more timely fashion. Perhaps there was another way to serve food, keep it warm and let people take portions absent the burden of advanced calculus.
I envisioned a long table with various kinds of food laid out in warm pans. There would be plenty for all. When a pan ran low, servers would refill it with fresh food. People would grab a plate and make their way down this table, taking as much of a given item as they pleased. Sure, they might have to wait in line a bit, but let’s say we make this table accessible from both sides to move things along twice as fast. That way, you could get whatever food you want and return to your seat in a timely fashion, before it all got cold. And to top things off, we’d give this new dining method a fancy French name, like “buffet.”
As inelegant and cattle-herding as it might often seem, the buffet works better than the family-style scoop-and-pass. Of course, both rank behind the traditional “plated” meal, in which you receive your very own dinner served to you with the understanding that this is your meal and yours alone, not to be shared, divided or passed to anyone else and to be eaten free of the guilt that you may have exceeded your fair portion.
In any event, let’s return to our scorned Scrodman, who since we left him has been planning his evil plot for revenge. It seems Scrodman wants a second heaping helping of mashed potatoes because the initial mound wasn’t nearly enough. He retrieves the mashed potato platter from the scaffolding, scoops up a dollop the size of a volleyball and blorps it onto his plate. To extract the reluctant potatoes still sticking to the serving spoon, he taps the spoon on his plate several times. He then puts the spoon back into the platter, takes another dollop and repeats the tapping on his plate.
Now, for all intents and purposes, the mashed potatoes are off limits. They belong solely to Scrodman. The serving spoon touched his dirty plate, which had been touched several times by his dirty fork, and was returned to the community mashed potatoes. He might as well have stuck his tongue into the potatoes and swirled it around. Touching the spoon to a clean plate when starting things off is all well and good, but once that plate has been violated in such a manner, it is a steaming germfest. That is why my invention of a buffet would require you to choose a clean plate each time you return to the trough. Tolerating such behavior at home among my own family is troubling enough, but I refuse to engage in spit-swapping with a total stranger. This, I am certain, is exactly how Scrodman anticipated my reaction. His plot was complete.
Thankfully, dessert was served to us individually. I didn’t have to contend with Scrodman triple-dipping his spoon into a shared vat of ice cream, licking it clean each time. Some people just don’t get family-style.
Neither do I, really. I do have enough horse sense to know what constitutes proper etiquette, yet I find this serving method taxing. At best, it’s cumbersome and inefficient; at worst, it’s dining Darwinism and an opportunity for social Neanderthals to spoil it for the rest of us.
So the next time you’re planning an event and consider the family-style meal, think again. And whatever you do, don’t serve scrod.
— Mark J. Drozdowski
Mark J. Drozdowski is a writer, humorist and aspiring pundit. He was a columnist for The Chronicle of Higher Education for nine years and currently writes a humor column, “Special Edification,” for Inside Higher Ed. His writing has appeared inThe New York Times Magazine, Boston Globe Magazine, theBaltimore Sun, the Hartford Courant and Salon, among other publications and websites. He blogs at drdroz.wordpress.com, and you can follow him on Twitter @drdroz.
An odoriferous whiff of burnt chicken permeated the air. Honestly, I hate pretentious polysyllabic words. I’m all for honest writing.
So an “honester” wording of the above would be: the stench of rotting ham invaded the room. I’m alluding to our senior center’s Christmas production, a series of skits.
Held on a pseudo-stage in the center’s cafeteria, ‘twas impossible to avoid the perennial whiff of burnt chicken, but that rotting ham slam I just made was in reference to the oldsters’ hammy performances. Thanks to the evil twin who thrives inside my brain, the show closed after one night. You’re welcome.
Before I became an infamous New York critic, I was building up my acting resumé, mastering such demanding roles as the Third Guard in Othello, the water boy in Carousel and Mr. Three in The Adding Machine. When I decided to audition for the Christmas skits, I knew I would be the obvious candidate to play the lead. In every skit. After all, I was an experienced thespian. Also, I had checked out the senior “talent” pool. Bah humbug? Nah, more like Boooo! Ham-bug!
Having almost played the part of Scrooge in my high school’s production of A Christmas Carol, I would surely be a shoo-in to play Dickens’ most coveted role in a parody of that story. I was hoping the director would, you know, “cast against type.” But, naturally, politics reared its ugly, toothy head. Yup, the part went to “Studly Dowell,” a no-talent, long-of-tooth, ne’er-do-well who claims to be in his sixties. His sixties, my foot. Like the Dickens’ character itself, Studly was reportedly conceived in 1843.
But seriously, a vicious rumor really does have it that the director, Ms. Myrtle Loons, cast him only after she and Studly spent a lot of time together on the senior center’s casting couch. Mostly snoring, no doubt.
Miss Loons not only rejected the genius of my acting audition, she resented my advising her on what would have been brilliant directorial choices. Ya see, I’m a little psychic and I predicted that, without my expertise, the program would surely flop. She snidely said I should stick to writing.
So, surprise! Here’s a quick-and-dirty review of the program. And remaining professional to the core, I shall be objective to the utmost vendetta, and I shan’t be scant with including behind-the-scenes scandals. Here goes:
Turns out, Studly Dowell didn’t do-well as Scrooge. The night the program was performed he became rattled right before he went onstage and flubbed most of his lines. Apparently, some lovable rascal had slipped into the cafeteria and made toast. Studly freaked because everyone over 50 knows that the smell of toast can be a prelude to a stoke. (What diabolical mind would play a priceless prank like that?). T’was pity Miss Loons had steadfastly rejected my suggestion for Studly to have an understudy. Moi.
During dress rehearsal for the nativity vignette, Bill Bungle almost played Joseph. Too bad he drank too much “courage,” fell asleep, missed his entrance cue and ultimately began reciting several of his lines from the next skit in which he played Santa.
That threw everyone off the script. Director Loons all but swooned when Bessie Botcher, playing an angel, sputtered: “I bring good joy. I mean tidings of a Savior. Uh Mary birthed a swaddling baby? Or something like that.”
In a skit titled “Treasure Island Christmas,” Harvey Haymaker, playing a pirate, was fumbling with his eyepatch and dropped his cane onstage. This terrified the parrot on his shoulder, prompting it to take an unscheduled flight down the corridor. Playing a buccaneer, Leroy Runnington fell completely out of character and began screaming at Harvey: “You idiot. That’s my pet bird,” whereupon Leroy swiftly exited stage left, chasing after the bird who was screaming “Oy vey!”
Christened “The Senior Center’s Christmas Fiasco,” I guess if there’s one good thing about the program, it would be that, by gum, the acting was honest. Or something like that.
What a shame Studly had whistled in the dressing room. I hear that’s bad luck. Indeed, the show flopped. Just as this psychic critic had predicted.
Being psychic is a burden. Being psychotic is a blessing.
— Steve Eskew
Retired businessman Steve Eskew received master’s degrees in dramatic arts and communication studies from the University of Nebraska at Omaha after he turned 50. After one of his professors asked him to write a theater column, he began a career as a journalist at The Daily Nonpareil in Council Bluffs, Iowa. This led to hundreds of publications in a number of newspapers, most of which appear on his website, eskewtotherescue.com.
As someone who came of age in the 1960s, I often reflect on how different the lives of teenagers back then were from those of today.
When I was an adolescent, there seemed to be a new dance to master and enjoy every month. It was often named after an animal, which was characterized as “Funky.” In other cases the dance was identified by a nonce word — the Boogalo, the Shing-a-Ling, the Hucklebuck. Nowadays there seem to be no new dances, other than those that kids learn by watching sex videos on the Internet. Progress, this is not.
There was the Funky Chicken, the Funky Penguin (Parts 1 and 2) and the Funky Worm. There was Mickey’s Monkey, the Monkey and the Monkey Time — more fun than a barrel of monkeys! There was the Snake and the Gator. No actual animals were harmed in the performance of these dances, other than humans.
To my knowledge, the last recorded instance of a dance named after an animal that did — or did not — sweep the nation was “The Bird,” by Morris Day, released in 1984. I listened to it just this morning — it has much to recommend it.
It contains all the essential elements of a tune designed to launch a dance craze. The singer asks the audience whether they’ve heard of the new dance — they apparently have not. He instructs them on its correct performance, then urges them to get out on the dance floor and do it. It is ecumenical in its approach; ladies, white people, even Siamese Twins — as long as they are “sexy” — are separately urged to try the new dance.
Whatever happened to America’s innovative spirit? Astronauts aboard the International Space Station report only isolated instances of animal-themed teen dancing around the world, a fact with chilling portents for the future since there are more teenagers alive — right now —than at any time in human history!
The ’60s, by contrast, were a period of almost constant teen dance innovation. “Killer” Joe Piro seemed to invent — or discover — a new dance every week, and he taught them to world leaders including the Duke of Windsor, the Maharani of Baroda and Luci Baines Johnson, daughter of a U.S. President (Lyndon, not Andrew). Don’t take my word for it — look it up on Wikipedia. There really is such a thing as a Maharani — and of Baroda, no less!
My suspicion is that animal-themed dances went the way of the dodo because parents were concerned that their offspring would follow the example of the many funky animals they were imitating and start procreating as soon as they reached the age of sexual maturity, long before they had completed the course work for an undergraduate degree in accounting. Teen pregnancy is fine for chickens, but not humans.
Which is where the Bdelloid Rotifer comes in. For those of you who do not read the little squibs of weird science that appear as fillers in major metropolitan newspapers, the Bdelloid Rotifer is an animal that has gone without sex for 40 million years! There is absolutely no way that any funny stuff is going to happen if you dance like one.
So come on, everybody. Get up off your derrieres, get out of your chair-i-eres, and do the Funky Bdelloid Rotifer!
— Con Chapman
Con Chapman is a Boston-area writer whose works include The Year of the Gerbil, a history of the 1978 Yankees-Red Sox pennant race, 10 published plays and two novels, Making Partner and CannaCorn (Joshua Tree Publishing). His articles and humor have appeared in magazines and newspapers including The Atlantic Monthly, The Boston Globe and The Christian Science Monitor.